Is it possible to be a feminist and still be in a healthy long-term cis-hetero-romantic relationship? I’ve been asked that question many, many times during the last months, as well as: „Did you give up?“ I did not at all. There are different ways of living and (not) loving, but in fact I could fill pages with „reasons why I couldn’t bear one single day as a couple WITHOUT being a feminist“. Besides this, I know „dependance“ became a dirty word (for pretty good reasons). But what if it’s a two-way-street? And yes, I could live without my partner. But hell, I don’t want to. Is he a feminist, too? Obsolete question. Otherwise we obviously would not have been dating a 2nd time. It’s a first-date conversation. Back in the days I would always rebel. But I haven’t ever been that clear. If someone violates my boundaries, I’ll be gone in a second. I’ll keep on beeing bloody difficult, I won’t keep quiet about my beliefs, I’ll talk about even the smallest issues, so my partner will have all the information needed. I’ll always speak up. This is my promise to myself. And to my son. So, yes. You can totes even love two boys and still be feminist af. But you really don’t have to. Remember? „I’m not looking for my other half, because I am not a half.“